Self-esteem quizzes are not going to give you the answer One of the most common questions I am asked is "why do I feel not good enough and how do I change it". There are a lot of words and phrases in the English language that we use and don't often consider what they actually mean. Self-esteem is one of them. I would invite you to pause for a moment and jot down your definition of self-esteem, before you read on. Even when I am writing this, after nearly 20 years of working with people...

For a while I have been thinking about stepping back from therapy. To focus on the more creative side of myself. I have written on my Substack publication, about this. There's something I imagine many of you will recognise: the moment you commit publicly to a decision, and suddenly feel locked into it. Once I'd shared that earlier piece, I caught myself thinking, well, I have to stick with it now. Thoughts crept in about not being taken seriously, if I changed course yet again, and a...

Hello, thank you for stopping by to spend some time with me. Why this blog post about anxiety is unusual I realise this is not your usual therapy blog post! Mixing it up a bit! I have questioned the wisdom of writing this at all. My anxiety is really noticeable. Will I be judged for writing something that could be construed as unprofessional and ridiculous. But heck, I am not a starchy therapist. I live a messy life too with problems and difficulties just the same as you do. I like to keep...